Living life as a single mom is certainly not easy. But that does not mean when the road had been, she could not do it.
When life becomes a single parent it should be lived, what should be done and not done? Here are the results wolipop conversation with the author of the book ‘The Single Moms’, Budiana Indrastuti, Mia Amalia and Ainun Chomsun, in Kemang, South Jakarta, Wednesday (06/06/2012):
1. Don’ts: slumped Too Old
Ainun said when he decided to separate from your partner will surely feel very down. “It may still fall, but not for too long. Longer when collapsed, the child is also in the process of sinking. He was so confused, I to whom ya, you is not no mother not stable, it’s dangerous,” said the woman known by the name on the account pasarsapi Twitter that.
2. Don’ts: Blaming Yourself
When divorced, usually women will blame themselves busy. It, too, recognized Ainun. Before parting determined, he had done it. But do not let that feeling protracted. Continue reading “Do & Don’t So the mother who is single”
Unlike intact families in general, children who are raised by single parents is likely difficult to identify one parent figure who did not live with him. But that does not mean there is no solution.
“It would be different between children raised in intact families with a single. Whatever extra attention given to single parents, will not be complete because the child must identify a mother figure and a father,” said psychologist efnie Indriani, M.Psi, when contacted wolipop Thursday (07/05/2012).
To keep the child the attention and affection are complete, then both parents have to be compromised in arranging parenting time. In the case of divorced parents, for example, the mother must share parenting time with father. For example, in one week, four days the child with his mother and two days with his father.
“Before making a deal if the parents will not speak ill of one another so that only the positive value received by children. Parents do not be selfish, do not just put their own interests (eg just like dear child to the father or mother),” said psychologist who became a lecturer at the Faculty Maranatha Christian University’s Psychology. Continue reading “Divorced Parents, It Should Be Compromised When Parenting”
Negative stigma often attached to a single mother. Not being able to take care of a husband with a good, unselfish and often labeled too demanding husband so so causes rift households.
In the case of divorce, women are often labeled as the more guilty party. In fact, the domestic rift comes from both sides.
Negative impression about the single mom has ever stopped yourself Ainun Chomsun. Mother of one child could even avoid meeting her extended family as reluctant to serve a barrage of questions about the cause of her divorce with her ex-husband.
“At the beginning I avoid, do not want to hang out at a point that is not safe (with the negative stigma). Stigma that makes me run out of energy to serve them. Having two new years I got out, it started to hang out more,” said Ainun, when talking with wolipop in The Reading Room, Kemang, South Jakarta, Wednesday (06/06/2012).
Continue reading “Tips for Dealing with Negative Stigma Divorced Women”
Raising children alone without the help of a couple of course is not easy. These four women profiled in the book ‘The Single Moms’.
Three of the four authors book Budiana Indrastuti, Mia Amalia and Ainun Chomsun talking to wolipop to share stories about their work. Three is a woman who has a successful career and still be a good parenting, even without the presence of a partner.
How can they be selected to write the book Baby Books published this? Ainun admitted he was initially interviewed by a freelance reporter working in Baby. The interview is about his work as founder of the Academy Sharing. From the interview, the reporter learned that Ainun was a single mom. From there came the offer to write a book.
“I emailed, were not willing to write a book about the single mom, I said no. Emailed again, I do not answer anymore. Continues invited to meet each one of the editors,” Ainun story when talking with wolipop in the Reading Room, Kemang, South Jakarta, on Wednesday (06/06/2012). Continue reading “The Single Moms: Inspirational Stories 4 Women Increase Child Without Husband”
When deciding on divorce, will certainly lead to a fairly deep wound in the hearts of the single mom. But that does not mean after that, you are so traumatized and refused to get married or have a partner anymore.
Ainun Chomsun co-author of “The Single Mom ‘, until now he has not been close to any man again. Not because she is traumatized, it’s just really busy in the world of work is very solid. Besides being a social media specialist at a company, he is also the founder of the Academy of Sharing, a container for any learning place for anyone who wanted to come.
“Once it got close friends, friendship, very good to my son. Till my son once said, would not be my daddy. But here-here he says really bad got a new daddy, we both wrote,” when talking with wolipop story in the Reading Room , Kemang, South Jakarta, Wednesday (06/06/2012). In the discussion that there are two authors of ‘The Single Mom’ other that is Budiana Indrastuti and Mia Amalia
For Ainun even if later he found a mate, the most important thing for him is the man accepted his daughter. “He must be comfortable,” he said. Continue reading “To be Single Mom Had No Return collapsed Currently Couple Again”
In addition to the safety factor has always been the fear of parents when letting their children play in nature, outdoor activities seem expensive. Though outdoor activities are very important for the health and development of children under 5 years old.
Outdoor activities have many advantages. In addition to introducing nature so that the child can explore his curiosity, can also help improve motor skills and allow them to get some fresh air. You do not have to take a child to a farm or a garden outside the city every week. Outdoor activities can be done around the house. Here are some alternatives of outdoor activities in the home, as reported by The Parents Zone.
1. Swim with Swimming Pool Portable
Most toddlers love to play water. Set the portable pool in your backyard can be an easy choice. There are some types of portable swimming pools are safe for toddlers, such as inflatable swimming with rigid side wall so it can hold more water.
2. Hide and seek or Throw Ball Continue reading “4 Alternative Outdoor Activities for Toddlers”
Sleep is a time to rest. But did you know that sleep is not just for baby to rest? Qualified or not to sleep the baby will affect its development.
Explained dr. Rosilana Goddess Roeslani Sp.A (K), when the baby woke up less than bedtime. The time it takes for a baby to sleep approximately 16-20 hours per day. Infants aged 0-4 months need more sleep time.
At bedtime, there are two phases experienced by infants is Rapid Eye Movement (REM) and non-rapid eye movement (non-REM). A pediatrician from Madura Hospital explained when REM recorded in the brain is very active, in contrast to the non-REM phase. Non-REM phase is the phase of the person actually fell asleep. Each phase has its benefits, especially in infants.
In deep sleep or non-REM sleep the body works to produce Growth Hormone (growth hormone) for the growth and repair of damaged cells. “In a deep non-REM sleep or to be issued or Growth Hormone growth hormone. Useful growth hormone for growth and replace the damaged cells. Addition to growth hormone will also be issued hormone prolactin and cortisol,” says dr. Rosi when met at Djakarta Theater Building, Central Jakarta, Tuesday (06/12/2012) Continue reading “What effect if Baby Sleep Deprivation?”
Go with the baby and my husband is very nice during the holidays. In addition to spending time with family, your child will feel happy. However, your child can also be stressful or cranky because the atmosphere at the site made him uncomfortable.
For that, you should listen to the following ten things to keep in mind when carrying your baby holiday. This explanation, as quoted from She Knows.
1. Use the Same Clothes with Color
Your husband, and their child is recommended to use the same color clothes. This is to anticipate the tourist crowds that can make children disappear from view. Wear bright colors are quite striking so easy to find a husband or your toddler when accidentally separated.
2. Invites Baby Sitter If Children Are More Than One
When you want to go on vacation with the kids and husband could not accompany, you should take baby sitter. It is important that the baby sitter can assist in keeping your children.
Continue reading “10 Tips For Your Small & Comfortable Going the holidays”
The desire of the child to be the mainstay of parents when faced with a fussy baby. However, if you continually do, it is not likely the child will be spoiled.
If you want to raise the baby without spoiling, but still responsible for making children, parents should set the ground rules. Here are 7 of the best ways to avoid spoiling the baby as described Baby Center.
Parents sometimes become weak and easily misled children because they do not apply the rule from the beginning. For example, when a child wants to eat the cake, but she had too much to eat sweet foods. Consider the sentence you utter. If you say ‘Ok, you should not eat cake’, this will open up opportunities for children to sulk eat cake again. But if from the start you’ve made a deal with him, like, ‘ok you should not eat the cake, and then save the cake’, this sentence will not make the child have a gap to ask for more.
Consistent Rules Against Defined Continue reading “7 Steps to Becoming Parents Not Spoiling Children”
Interested in finding a job with a great salary and bonus? Just try to work as a babysitter for the kids celebrity world. The babysitter is, in addition to well-paid will also be rewarded with a house and car. Wow!
Huffington Post reports, the babysitter who worked for these celebrities are paid may be greater than your income. Imagine for hush money they can earn U.S. $ 185 thousand, or approximately USD 1.7 billion.
The number is obtained by the Huffington Post based on information from one of Celebrity Staffing Services Director Glenda Ross. Glenda workplace is known as one of the leading manpower agencies. Clients of the agency include Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith, Lisa Marie Presley, Prince and Drew Barrymore.
According to Ross, not just hush money in large amounts that could be obtained the babysitter for the child celebrity. The top celebrities like Beyonce and Angelina Jolie, do not hesitate to give abundant bonus for caregivers of their children. Bonuses ranging from houses, cars, and money of up to U.S. $ 10 thousand. Continue reading “Babysitter Child Celebs: Billions paid amount, given Home & Car”